There is a better way to settle differences than in a costly courtroom battle. Mediation is a collaborative process in which both parties meet with a neutral person to work out mutually agreeable solutions to their problems or issues.

Mediation is conducted under the guidance of a trained professional. The mediator does not make the decisions; rather, the mediator guides the process to help with communication, keeps the individuals focused on the issues, and helps them reach agreements in an peaceful way.

By choosing mediation, individuals in a dissolving relationship are taking charge of their lives while maintaining their sense of dignity and self-esteem. Separation and divorce are painful enough – they need not be violent or destructive. The whole process of mediation minimizes the animosity often associated with family conflicts because both parties are making the decisions together.

Mediation is truly a work of collaboration. The outcome agreements are the product of the work of both persons involved in the relationship. Mediation is confidential, avoiding public disclosure of personal problems. It benefits children and others by reducing conflict. Perhaps the most important benefit of mediation is that the process only takes place with both persons present where they are able to work through differences and come to an agreements together. This by itself often keeps the relationship from being totally destroyed.

When is Mediation Appropriate?

As with most conflict resolution, sooner is better in order to preserve the relationship. There is absolutely no risk – if after the initial session either person feels that the process is not going to work for them, they are free to discontinue the process and choose another method.

The Goal of Mediation

The goal of mediation is a settlement that each person understands, that considers the interests of all family members, and that will be lasting because the people involved are responsible for it. Successful mediation can make for peaceful endings.